Lesson I’ve Learned as a Mom: Don’t Compare

It’s so easy to fall into the trap of comparison as a mom.

Momin’ ain’t easy!!!

And during those moments (days…years…) of despair there is bound to be someone doing it better. It’s always out there. On Facebook, Instagram, etc. “Perfect moms” with “perfect kids.” OH PLEASE!! That doesn’t exist. Social media is what we CHOOSE to show. Please remember that!

Don’t COMPARE.

Also, PLEASE don’t judge!!

Let other moms make mistakes. Let other moms make different choices!

You know what is better than comparing? LOVING, HONORING, PRAISING other moms. If you see a mom doing a great job, compliment her! Maybe ask her her secret. (Chances are you just caught her on a good day…but you never know).

Making mistakes is cool. It means you are trying.

But you don’t have to fail alone!!! Reach out to your mom tribe. Ask for advice. We might not have the answer (do we ever?!!!), so then we can cry or fist bump over our shared misery!!

It IS just a season. There are seasons when we feel like we are getting in our mom-groove, and season when we can’t seem to get a single thing right.

That brings me to another point: SEASONS. The moms you think have it all might just be in a different season than you. They might have different priorities than you. I’ll be honest, I don’t know HOW moms can look put together. EVER. I don’t even feel like I remember how to wear clothes I might actually care about more than their function – “Can I workout in this? Can this get dirty? How many times can I wear this before someone notices I’m wearing the same outfit day after day?” BUT maybe those moms are really into fashion and that is THEIR THING. Their way to feel “normal,” (whatever that is nowadays). My normal is working out. So I make that a priority. I’m not some super mom, that’s just what I choose to make happen every day.

Let’s replace comparisons with COMPLIMENTS. Find ways to have more conversations with other moms and learn from each other. Have opinions, but be willing to honor that other moms have theirs too! At the end of the day, we share one of the best gifts ever – the gift of motherhood! Let’s celebrate that!